Tips for Strap-On Enjoyment

Strap-ons are more elaborate than your average sex toy, and stepping into one may feel odd. Take your time. The dildo needs to be fitted into the front piece and straps may need to be adjusted. Be patient with these toys, with yourself and with your sex partner. At first you may feel awkward.

Always use plenty of lubricant with strap-ons. Your dildo -- as well as any body part you’re planning to use it on -- should be generously lubricated before insertion. Experiment to see which one best complements your strap-on play.

At first, the wearer should refrain from thrusting, allowing the recipient to slowly engulf the strap-on dildo instead of being penetrated. The rear-entry (doggie style) position is a good one to use.

Strap-on harnesses allow the wearer's hands to remain free during erotic coupling. Use your hands in other places.

Some couples like to explore simulated fellatio in which the recipient sucks on the dildo. If the dildo has been inserted anally, it should be thoroughly washed with soap and water and/or a sex toy cleaner before it enters the recipient's mouth.

If a man wears the harness, he might alternate inserting his erection and the strap-on dildo into his partner.

If a man wears the harness and the woman is open to double penetration, the man can insert his penis and strap-on dildo simultaneously into her vagina and anus.

When women wear the harness, the front piece typically covers the clitoris. Some women enjoy the clitoral stimulation that results when the base of the dildo presses the front piece against it. Others miss direct clitoral stimulation. If so, reach under the front piece to fondle her clitoris. Or loosen the straps and lift the front piece or move it aside to allow access to her clitoris.